A lot of people go into self-sabotage and they do that because they don't want to miss out, they don't want to lose but actually, they choose to lose everything.

Many of us did not even realise that we already sabotaged ourselves as we kept on blaming others for our bad decisions. We didn’t see that it’s our own doing, that it’s our own self-sabotage - sometimes we didn’t even recognise it, and sometimes, we deny it.

Tell me, in what area of your life have you self-sabotaged? As for me? I keep sabotaging myself in every area of my life - may it be in a relationship, in business, myself, and all. I. Just. Kept. On. Doing. It!! And it’s so frustrating!

What happened is that we sabotage in business, in life, relationships, or anything at all, because we get comfortable. If we get comfortable, we don’t have that much desire to go to the next level - we get complacent and we’re afraid to go out of our comfort zone because we don’t want to mess up what we already achieved.

And that is why we get stuck… Our fear keeps holding us back. We fear that if we risk what we have, we’ll fail and we’ll lose everything. When I'm running away from pain, I'm in fear. And when I'm in fear, I usually make decisions that are not serving me, my business, my relationship, wherever I am at.

And I’ll tell you this, you won’t get any gain if you continue on that thinking - if you continue sabotaging yourself. Usually, we sabotage ourselves because we doubt our power, and sometimes, we fear about losing time - but we actually start to lose so much time and that is the ultimate sabotage.

If you want to hear more about these people pleasers, please click the play button below and also, leave a comment and tell me your thoughts. Thank you!

What you will discover in this episode:

• Why people pleasers are liars?
• What is the main cause why we self-sabotage?
• How can we recognise or know that we’re actually self-sabotaging?
• Why do we have to change our SHOULDS into WANTS?
• My experiences on self-sabotaging and the lessons I’ve learned from it.
• What does self-sabotage mean and why there is no such thing as self-sabotage?

I hope everybody will have an incredible and successful year. I am so pumped already and ready to get the best out of 2021.

How about you?

So, in this episode, I’m going to summarise our 2020. Every year since 2018, we have our hashtag themes. Last year, we are #SuperOrganised. This 2021, we have our new hashtag which is #Explosion!! Sales Explosion, Social Media Explosion, and everything in our business will explode. Claiming it!!

A year-end summary of our 2020, we’ve started this podcast - the Business Behind The Scenes Podcast, we also have our Private Podcasts (Entrepreneurs Abundance Mastermind and S.O.B.A. VIP) which is only for our clients. I’ve hired more team members, although 3 of them left, still, it’s okay. It’s normal in business though it hurts. 

We’ve got our procedures and processes done as well as our workbooks, I’ve got Certified from Life Coach School, I’ve finished a new book which is the Invisible to Invincible Book. Although CoVid halted our Live Workshops, it didn’t stop us from helping people and we’ve started our Online Workshops, even our Bootcamps, Action Days, 3-Days, Certification, and some of our events were hosted online. 

It turned out great, some may feel that it needs to be done face-to-face but what can we do about it? CoVid happened so even though it’s hard, we need to be seen out there. It’s also good since we’ve maximized the use of Social Media. 

I’ve got a lot to say and you just need to listen to this podcast to know more about it. Thank you!

Don't play small, anything is possible if you just take the risk and put yourself out there.

What you will discover in this episode: 

• The year-end summary of our 2020
• What struggles me and my team faced together and lessons along with it.
• How we survived our 2020 despite this pandemic.
• Our failures, growth, achievements, and success. 
• Learn about our plans for 2021 and how we will achieve it.

Today is a special day because it’s Christmas!!! Some of you may not be celebrating this season but it’s okay, as long as you’re happy. Right? 🙂 

Today, we’ll talk about the lessons you’ll get from collaborating with others…

So, what’s your story about collaborations?

Were they good? Were they bad? Were they successful? Or were they the ultimate failure? There are those moments, right? And as for me, I’ve been to them especially those failed ones. Remember the ‘Mr. Shark’ that I’ve been talking about from the last episodes? He’s one of those epic fails. 

But, we should not be afraid of collaborations - a lot of us don't realize how collaborations can have a huge impact on our businesses positively, not just in a negative way. 

Collaborations might be a little costly but it can make you and your business known to other people. It can also hurt your feelings and ruin your pride as some collaborators aren’t in sync with you but you know what, sometimes, we just have to go through bumpy rides to be able to overcome it.

As long as you're doing the right thing, as long as your heart is in the right place, and you always do your best, there's no way that you can lose your reputation, even if you choose the wrong person to collaborate with...

If you want to know more about this episode, why don’t you hit the play button now? And also, if you leave a positive comment below, you might win my newly launched FMM course! 

What you will learn in this episode:

• The pros and cons of collaborating with other people.
• Mistakes I’ve made in my collaborations and how it affected my business.
• Funnel talk - when and whom to collaborate.
• How collaboration helps your business.
• Why do you need to collaborate with others?

But before the fun part, here’s a story when I didn't have fun in my business… and that is when I was thinking of quitting my own business!!!

Aside from that, I was affected by the work environment. I get so stressed - be it for a small or a big thing. It wasn’t anybody’s fault but mine. I was stuck, I procrastinated, I was caught up with all the tasks, I was frustrated with the staff who left my team without leaving their procedures behind, I was taking everything sooo seriously, and most especially, I only got worried about getting clients and money.

Not right, I know. 🙂 It’s also tough since my EGO keeps blocking me out.

And when I realised that I’ve been doing it wrong all the time, I snapped! Not in a bad way but I snapped as I went, “Oh shoot!! This BS is BS!!” 

And then I changed it…

I meditated, I allocated time to have fun like go hiking, swimming, reading books, having a walk with my baby, Ollie boy, in the park, and many more activities whilst still focusing on my business. I make sure that I don’t stress too much since I have a capable team in the office and my lovely VAs.

I also explore new things, which I didn’t do in the past since I was so engrossed in my own BS. I talk more with my team, getting their opinions and stuff, talking to my clients, and helping them as it’s not always about money, right? 

I started my business with the goal of helping and uplifting business owners, coaches, speakers, etc on my mind… And this is my top goal, giving them so much value, helping them with their clarity, funnels, and strategies.

If you want to know more about this topic and my stories, please click the play button and leave me a comment below of what you think about this episode. 😉 Have a great day or night wherever you’re listening.

Things you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How come you aren't having fun in your business anymore?
• Things you need to do and avoid in order for you to have fun while in business.
• Why do you need to prioritise having fun in business?
• Challenges that most of us experience when we’re burnt out in our business.
• Learn as I break down the fun things that I do in my business and with my team.
• Why do you need to have a team?